Breakups...

Starting a relationship is a joyful adventure because everything is new. We enjoy the "getting-to-know-you process" where all conversations are fun and fresh. Most importantly, we savor the possibilities of finding "the" one person who will compliment us (well, some believe in completion but that is another topic). But, eventually, relationships end and people get hurt. Whether it is incompatibility or lack of confidence and braveness required to withstand the tests of time and the problems that plague all relationships, relationships end and we are left wondering what to do.

I think the hardest part of a breakup is the self-analysis. What did I do wrong? What happened? How could I prevent this? Is there something wrong with me? Is there something wrong with him/her? We spend countless hours analyzing conversations, guessing, assuming and looking for the signs we missed. And of course, the inevitable conversation with friends and family about the break up and explaining what happened....and receiving the hurtful hug that tumbles down our fort of dignity and makes us cry.

Some time after the breakup, people will ask, "Was it a good breakup?" And the answer of course is NO. There is no such thing as a "good breakup." Someone always gets hurt regardless of the circumstances. Of course, there are people, both male and female, who can recover from a breakup in little time and are able to pick up the pieces. Perhaps they have more experience, more inner strength, or their dignity was hurt too much to let it show. Regardless of the case, there is no such thing as a good breakup. No one breaks up because they want to and feels joy afterwards. We hurt. We grieve. We cry. We temporarily hate.

...but we always move on!